So I don’t know about you, but one of the biggest obstacles I’ve faced as a mom is the fact that I’m an introvert. My alone time is very important and necessary, and moms don’t get a lot of alone time. It’s just not part of the gig! But not enough alone time leaves me feeling depleted and short-tempered. If you’re also an introvert, then I assume the same happens to you. I wanna share a couple tips on surviving motherhood as an introvert.
Surviving motherhood as an introvert
Tip #1 Let go of the blame.
Do not, under any circumstances, blame yourself for the fact that you’re an introvert and need time away from your kids. Society has duped us into believing that only the best moms are the ones who are with their kids 25/7. You need space away from your kids and that is 100% okay. Blaming yourself for it doesn’t change that fact and it doesn’t serve you or your kids. So let go of the blame!
Tip #2 Get into a predictable routine so you know when you can expect alone time.
Not only do kids thrive on routine, but so do moms! I can’t tell you how many times I’m just waiting for the sweet hour of alone time I get in the early afternoon. I know the relief is coming and am therefore able to keep it together just a bit longer for my kids.
Tip #3 Don’t be afraid to enforce physical boundaries with your toddlers.
There is a huge movement about teaching our toddlers about their bodily autonomy and their consent, but what about moms? Moms have a right to assert their bodily autonomy too! There are just some moments where I can’t handle being a crash pad for my nearly 4 year old. I have to put my foot down and that’s okay!
Tip #4 Start or end your day sans kids.
I usually advocate for moms to get up early and start their day without kids, but if you’re a night owl ending your day without kids is great too! This is a matter of personal preference. My husband goes to bed early and I have to wake up to pump at 5:30am anyways, so waking early before my kids works for me right now. Either way, having time without kids everyday is pivotal for surviving motherhood as an introvert!
Tip #5 Build a digital community.
Social media has its problems, but it also has its upsides. Facebook groups and Instagram have allowed me to connect with moms all over the country! I love that I have mom friends I can turn to without the extra burden of being physically close to someone. It’s also easy for me to disengage when I need to.
However, don’t neglect your local community either! Your digital community cannot babysit your kids when you need to go to the dentist. They cannot bring you a meal during a hardship. They cannot swing by with Starbucks after a rough night. You local community is still important!
Tip #6 Have compassion and grace for yourself.
Lastly, practice self-compassion and grace for yourself. This mom gig isn’t easy, and being tough on yourself certainly makes it 1000x harder! Know your boundaries and be okay with them. And if you’re struggling for whatever reason, speak to yourself kindly about it. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself.
Are there any other tips you would share? Would you classify yourself as an introvert? If you’re an extrovert, would you like to see some helpful tips as well?
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