I love women who exist unapologetically on social media. I love when women post pictures of themselves, their families, and their houses without apologizing for their flaws and imperfections.
I know you’ve seen what I’m talking about! Either a friend, influencer, or fellow mom will post a picture with some type of apology thrown into the caption. What is the apology for? They’re usually apologizing for not being perfect. I’ve seen women apologize for a messy background, unflattering angles, kids in mismatched clothes, fly away hairs, chipped nail polish, smudged lipstick – the list goes on and on.
Women everywhere are apologizing for not being perfect and it personally drives me insane! You do not have to be perfect. No one actually expects perfection from you, because anyone who has even slightly matured knows that perfection doesn’t exist. And anyone who does expect perfection from you needs to either adjust their expectations or kick rocks. Honestly. Don’t allow people to hold unrealistic expectations for you – it’s unhealthy for everyone involved.
Perfection is a pipedream! Spending your life chasing perfection will ultimately lead to frustration and emptiness. On the flip side, spending your life apologizing for not being perfect will lead to sadness, low self-esteem, and disappointment.Perfection is a pipedream! Here's two ways you can exist unapologetically on social media! Click To Tweet
Here’s two ways you can exist unapologetically.
1) Stop bringing up your imperfections and flaws.
Seriously. Just don’t even bring them up. Most people aren’t going to notice those things! Usually the only reason I even notice a flaw in a photo is because they brought it up in the caption! There’s honestly so much going on, on social media feeds that most people are not closely scrutinizing your photos under a microscope looking for imperfections.
Furthermore, unless you’re a blogger or influencer with a large following, most people following you are family and friends. Your family and friends don’t care that you aren’t perfect. They don’t love you because you’re perfect. They love you because you’re real and authentic.
Here’s a short, non-exhaustive list of things I never want to see in captions again:
- “Sorry for the mess in the background, but…”
- “OMG, such an unflattering angle, but look at…”
- “Don’t even mention my chipped nail polish.”
- “I know I look like a wreck in this photo, but I just had to commemorate…”
- “Just ignore the fact that I have a zillion fly away hairs.”
- “I’m not wearing any makeup, but…”
Oh, and sometimes women get really creative and sneaky with that apology and disguise it as an “I don’t care” attitude.
- “I don’t care that you can see my stretch marks and cellulite! I still love this photo and I’m posting it anyways!”
Just think how much more powerful that photo would be if it didn’t even acknowledge any flaws or imperfections! Just didn’t even bring up those flaws and imperfections because that’s how non-issue they are.
2) Stop leaving comments about imperfections and flaws.
It’s simple: if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Even if they brought it up in the caption, don’t agree with them. Don’t bring it up. Just ignore it and leave a compliment instead.
Affirming the imperfection/flaw with a comment just perpetuates the problem! It reinforces that they need to keep bringing them up. After all, people generally point out their own flaws because it’s easier to be aware of them first then have someone point it out to you.
Just for fun (and a shameless plug), here’s a couple posts from my Instagram where I’ve stopped apologizing for not being perfect.
If I could convince mamas (all women, really) of anything it would be that you can be confident and body positive at any size. . Hindsight is always 20/20, right? It took me 65 lbs of hard work to realize that the size of my body is inconsequential to the things God has called me to be/do. . Summer is in full swing here in Phoenix, so wear whatever bathing suit YOU feel comfortable in. Wear whatever allows you to not worry about your body, whether that be a bikini or a full-blown cover up. . And don’t be afraid to be in pictures with your kids either! They will look back on those memories fondly ♥ . . . . . #momlife #mom #toddlerlife #momsofinstagram #daughter #motherhood #momblogger #kids #mommy #childhoodunplugged #toddlersofinstagram #momswithcameras #motherhoodrising #summer #bodypositivity #selflove #poolday
We made tonight family movie night. After a trip to the pool, we had pizza 🍕 while we watched Coco, made rice krispy treats, and then enjoyed some after dinner. It was so relaxing and so much fun! The movie was 10/10, so if you haven’t seen it yet then I highly recommend it! . How do you relax and unwind as a family? . . . #familytime #family #movienight #familyfun #momlife #momblogger #motherhood #mommyblogger #mom #motherhoodunplugged #momsofinstagram #blogger #toddler #pizza #familymovienight #clementinefaye