Why I Announce My Pregnancies So Early

Posted June 22, 2018 by Kalyn in Bible, God, Motherhood, Pregnancy / 2 Comments

The very reason families sometimes don't announce a pregnancy too early is the reason I do. #pregnancy #motherhood

If you don’t follow me on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter, then it’ll be news to you that my husband and I are expecting baby #2 early next year. It’s still so early in my pregnancy that it doesn’t even seem real! I’ve just barely started having symptoms and haven’t even been to the doctor yet. Most doctors won’t see you before 6-8 weeks, and I was only 5 weeks when I announced. So why did I announce this pregnancy so early?

I announced my pregnancy with Clementine pretty early as well. I don’t exactly recall how far along I was, as that was over three years ago, but I’m fairly certain it was before six weeks – definitely before seven weeks. I had announced so early because I was excited and immediately sick. Pregnancy hit me like a sack of bricks – every food sounded disgusting and I was tired beyond belief. This second time around, I found out I was pregnant at only three weeks and three days. It was far too early for me to be exhibiting symptoms, but we were still excited so we told family right away.

Another reason we announced early is because I wanted to bring acknowledgement and recognition to that new life right away. Psalm 139:13 tells us that God creates each life, lovingly “knits” us together. Recognizing that life before our family and church just seems right to us. I know this conviction will be different for each family.

*Please note that from here forward I will be discussing a rather sensitive topic: miscarriage. Not in detail or description, but it is mentioned and want to give mamas an opportunity to leave if they aren’t comfortable reading about it at this time.*

The big sister!
But the main reason I announced it so early was the very reason most people don’t.

Most women don’t announce pregnancies so early due to the chance of miscarriage. Roughly 1 in 5 women will experience a miscarriage during their lifetime. That is the exact reason I wanted to announce early – I knew I would want support if we were to go through something as tragic as a miscarriage.

So many families suffer through miscarriages in silence because they were waiting to announce. And I know myself well enough to know that I would want to be surrounded by friends, family, and our community. I’ve seen too many posts in Facebook mom groups from women who are mourning the loss of a miscarriage behind closed doors because no one in their real life knew they were even pregnant. I imagine it can be hard to come out as having been pregnant after losing the baby.

So when did you announce? What factors lead you to that decision? There is no right or wrong answer here 🙂

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2 responses to “Why I Announce My Pregnancies So Early

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  2. Elizabeth

    I got pregnant 9 years ago (in June), but miscarried almost immediately. I had told 1 friend. I was sad, but not overly so. I guess I didn’t really have enough time to get attached. And almost no one knew. My second pregnancy we waited after we went to the doctor and heard the heartbeat (around 7-8 weeks) then we told family and announced in church. A couple weeks later I miscarried. That was a LOT harder. I wished we hadn’t told everybody. People would keep asking about my pregnancy and I’d have to explain again and again. That part really sucked. I understand wanting support if something happens, but I think everyone is different. Some people prefer to grieve quietly and some don’t.

  3. There was one time, between my first and second child, that I did announce early. I sadly miscarried just 2 weeks later.

    The family(my husband’s) actually got mad at me, and told me I just shouldn’t have said anything. His father legit got mad at me and actually yelled at me. I ended up not telling them the next 4 times(and they all lead to miscarriage as well) and it was to the point I just didn’t tell my husband I was even pregnant. I just went through it all silently.

    They all ended up wondering why I was nearly on deaths bed after the 2nd child was born. I didn’t end up telling them it was due to all the miscarriages until a much later date.

    It is so odd how people react with that word, miscarriage. My family was just fine and understanding through it all. His family made it seem like it was all my fault and I was somehow doing it on purpose.

    I now have 3 healthy children, but mixed in there was 7 miscarriages, and until I am writing this, no one ever knew how many children I truly had lost.

    I hope if you have any readers in a similar state, they have a better time of it, than I did. I didn’t write this to scare anyone. I just wanted to share that you shouldn’t have to be afraid. It is also okay if people don’t understand.

    I really should have explained things better at the time maybe, and I wouldn’t have felt so alone. While my family was wonderful, I live in a small town with all of his whole family, and mine many hours away. I know now, that there are online support groups, wish I had of known then, when I was younger and so new to the whole process of creating life.

    Thanks for sharing!

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