Is this my longest blog post title? Perhaps. But I wanted to discuss this very specific topic, because I see it all the time. Facebook is a huge source of social interaction for stay at home moms and mom groups have exploded. But you know what I see a lot of? Cattiness, snarky comments, and general unkindness.
Even Especially in Christian groups. I know that religion inspires a lot of passionate feelings within us, but the nastiness is just unnecessary. In fact, God calls us to a much higher standard. Let’s take a peek at God’s call to be nice to everyone – found in Luke 6 – and then we’ll go over two tips that help me!
“But to you who are listening I say: love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.”
That’s quite the calling for Christians! We’re called to love, bless, and pray for those we would rather be unkind to.
“Do to others as you would have them do to you.”
I’m sure you’ve heard of the Golden Rule. God calls us not to treat others how they deserve or to give others a taste of their own medicine. He calls us to treat them as we would like to be treated. Assuming you’re a typical human being, you probably like to be treated with respect, kindness, and a gentle tone.
“If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that.”
In Christ, we are no longer viewed as sinners. We are a new creation, washed clean, and, therefore, must live up to a higher calling. These verses tell us that loving only those who return our love is not enough.
Two tips to be kind to everyone on Facebook.
1) Remember that Facebook offers such a small snippet into that person’s life.
It’s impossible to pack a post with enough detail that everyone will fully understand a situation. So understand that whatever you’re reading is not the full story. You don’t have all the details. It may seem like I’m being redundant here, but that’s because I am. I can’t stress this point enough!
2) Make sure your words are soft and sweet, in case you have to eat them.
Would you rather eat a deliciously soft sugar cookie or a rock-hard hunk of Grandma’s fruit cake? I consider that whenever I comment on a thread. I literally think, “If I’m wrong, am I going to be embarrassed or ashamed of what I’m saying right now?”. If the answer is yes, I either don’t comment at all or I reword my response.
These two tips help me to check myself as I comment on social media. How do you check yourself? In my research for this blog post, I came across another very interesting post on Relevantmagazine.com about how God hasn’t called us to niceness. I found the post very helpful on reminding myself that kindness cannot come before holiness. I pray that we as Christians can develop the discernment and wisdom to know the difference.
other posts you may enjoy…
- When Grace, Mercy, and Forgiveness are Ugly
- 5 Things Christians Say That Aren’t Actually In the Bible
- Teaching Discernment