Let’s not beat around the bush – lots of moms experience burn out. And for lots of different reasons. As a mother it’s so easy to lose yourself in being mommy. What makes it especially hard is that being mommy isn’t always fun. Most of the time it’s monotony – cleaning the same messes, saying the same things, going the same places, etc – and hard work – juggling 35 different things at one time. The monotony and relentlessness of motherhood can be draining, to put it simply. It can leave moms feeling like a zombie, like a shell of their former selves. So, when you’re in the trenches of motherhood, with the mud and the muck, here’s a list of things you can do to feel more human.
First thing’s first. If it’s been a couple days, be sure to take a shower. Hot or cold, crawl into that shower and let it wash away the grime of motherhood. I highly recommend doing this without an audience, so find someone to watch your kids. Whether that be a babysitter, a family member, dropping them off somewhere, or the TV. Have a good cry if you need to, too. Let it out so you can be rid of it.
2) Open the curtains and doors
Let in some natural light. Our house always feels so much gloomier when the curtains are drawn closed. If the weather permits, open the doors too to let in some fresh air.
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3) Eat something nutritionally dense
If you’ve been living off of your kids’ scraps and cold coffee, be sure to take time to fuel your body properly. My recommendation is a green smoothie. If that’s not an option, cook yourself up some eggs and have some fruit. Your body will thank you.
4) Change into an outfit that makes you feel cute
When moms are feeling burnt out, it’s simply easier to laze around the house in old clothes, but that often leaves us feeling frumpy and unattractive. I suggest changing into something you think is cute but is still comfortable, too. Maybe a cute pair of leggings with a t-shirt. Maybe a comfy dress. Possibly some cute work out clothes.
Oh, and this also includes putting on a bra!
5) Get ready in some capacity
Again, burn out means it’s easier to skip doing your makeup and hair. I know that I personally feel so much better when I’ve put a little more effort into my appearance. Some days that means a full face of makeup and others it just means brows, mascara, and a little highlight. Sometimes I do my hair, sometimes I don’t. But putting some effort into my appearance always perks up my mood.
If this is a consistent trend in your life…
I firstly want to reassure you that it is absolutely, 100% normal to experience burn out. Moms are so good at taking care of everyone else’s needs and neglecting their own. Burn out is to be expected. But if this is an ongoing theme in your life, please reach out to a medical professional. There is no shame in getting the help you need.
All that being said, if you’re ready to make a healthy lifestyle change to combat burn out (well, for the most part), I highly recommend checking out my series on how I got my @$&# together. It’s a self-help series that touches on several different ways that I reclaimed my life.
I basically identified ways that my life could improve and made changes in my small, every day routines and daily happenings. I went from severe PPD and not knowing which way was up to losing 65 lbs and somehow owning my own website.
I also recommend looking into CBD oil. I’ve struggled with depression for as long as I can remember, which basically zaps you of any desire or energy to even begin to think to change your life. I’ve been vaping CBD oil since 2017 and have noticed it makes a huge difference for me. As always, I’m not a physician, so please discuss with your doctor/do your own research.
Please know that I am here for you! Motherhood is so hard, so just know that there are lots of people willing to offer help, myself included.
If you could add a tip, what would it be?