Being a Mom is Hard: 5 Ways to Survive on the Worst Days

Posted March 9, 2018 by Kalyn in CBD, Depression, Health, How I Got My @$&# Together, How To, mental health, Motherhood / 14 Comments

Let’s not beat around the bush – being a mom is hard. The toughest “job” in the world. And for lots of different reasons.

As a mother it’s so easy to lose yourself in being mommy. What makes it especially hard is that being a mom isn’t always fun. Most of the time it’s monotony – cleaning the same messes, saying the same things, going the same places, etc – and hard work. After all, juggling 35 different things at one time can be overwhelming.

The monotony and relentlessness of motherhood can be draining. It can leave moms feeling like a zombie, like a shell of their former selves. And with these uncertain and unrelenting times during covid-19, moms are especially stretched thin.

So when you’re in the trenches of motherhood, with the mud and the muck, here’s a list of things you can do to feel more human – none of which require leaving your house.

Being a mom is overwhelming.

First and foremost, if you think you may be experiencing postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety, please reach out to your medical provider for help. It’s understandable that moms feel overwhelmed these days, so there is absolutely no shame in reaching out for help.

1) Shower

First thing’s first. If it’s been a couple days, be sure to take a shower. Hot or cold, crawl into that shower and let it wash away the grime of motherhood.

I highly recommend doing this without an audience, so make sure your partner is there to occupy the kids. And if that isn’t an option, there’s no shame in letting the TV babysit so you can perform a task of basic hygiene.

Have a good cry if you need to, too. Let it out so you can be rid of it.

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2) Open the curtains and doors

Let in some natural light. Our house always feels so much gloomier when the curtains are drawn closed. If the weather permits, open the doors too to let in some fresh air.

Even better, go outside and soak up some vitamin D. Let the kids loose in the back yard while you soak up some sunshine. There is emerging research that vitamin D plays in important role in immunity.

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3) Eat something nutritionally dense

If you’ve been living off of your kids’ scraps and cold coffee, be sure to take time to fuel your body properly.

My recommendation is some eggs or a portion of meat. I understand if that sounds strange to you, but eggs and meat have the highest bioavailability – meaning your body can most easily use up the nutrients from the food.

But if you’re short on various foods, just eat anything you have deemed healthy: a green smoothie, some yogurt, a handful of almonds.

4) Change into an outfit that makes you feel cute

When moms are feeling burnt out, it’s easier to laze around the house in old clothes, but that often leaves us feeling frumpy and unattractive. I suggest changing into something you think is cute but is still comfortable, too.

Maybe a cute pair of leggings with a t-shirt.

Maybe a comfy dress.

Possibly some cute work out clothes.

But make sure if you’re going to put on a bra that it’s comfy! Being a mom is hard enough – we don’t need to make it worse by stabbing ourselves with an uncomfortable bra.

5) Get ready in some capacity

Again, burn out means it’s easier to skip doing your makeup and hair. I know that I personally feel so much better when I’ve put a little more effort into my appearance.

Some days that means a full face of makeup and others it just means brows, mascara, and a little highlight. Sometimes I do my hair, sometimes I don’t. But putting some effort into my appearance always perks up my mood.

Lastly, please know that I am here for you! Being a mom is hard, so just know that there are lots of people willing to offer help, myself included.

If you could add a tip, what would it be?

Updated April 2020

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14 responses to “Being a Mom is Hard: 5 Ways to Survive on the Worst Days

  1. Amen! I follow all of these tips and they definitely help. Especially getting ready! I find the days that I stay in my PJ’s are less productive then the days where I actually put on some “real” clothes and a bit of makeup.
    I had PPD reallll bad early on and letting natural light come in made me feel more human! Great tips!

  2. Kym

    These are awesome. I definitely could get ready more often and it would help me a lot. I’m so comfortable and lazy in my PJs though.

    Another thing I like to do is nap more often. It seems counter productive, but if I’m not sleep deprived, I’m a better mama.

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