Let’s just jump right into it because
If you feel the need to comment on someone’s appearance, friend, family, or otherwise, I want you to ask yourself this question, “Can it be fixed in five seconds?”
If the answer is no, DON’T SAY IT.
I repeat: 🔊 if it will take the person longer than five seconds to correct, DON’T FREAKING SAY IT! 🔊
For example, if someone has food in their teeth, it will take them five seconds to clear it out – tell them.
If a girl’s skirt or dress is tucked into her underwear – tell her.
If there’s a trail of toilet paper stuck to their shoe – tell them.
If a girl has lipstick on her teeth or eye liner smudged under her eyes – tell her.
Examples of When Not to Comment on Someone’s Appearance
If you don’t like the cut and color of someone’s hair – does a hair cut or dye job take longer than five seconds?
If you don’t like someone’s clothes – does it take longer than five seconds for them to get undressed and then pick out and get dressed in new clothes?
If you don’t like the way a girl does her makeup – does it take her longer than five seconds to do it?
If you notice someone needs to lose or gain weight – does that process take longer than five seconds?
If you haven’t noticed, the answer to all of these examples is a glaring YES! Which means your commentary is not welcome.
And these lists are not exhaustive – there are a ton more that could be added. Please, please, please ask yourself this question the next time you want to offer your unsolicited opinion on someone else’s appearance.
What examples would you add to these lists?